What DO I want?

… You know what was wrong that resulted in unacceptable consequences? “I knew what I didn’t want, but I didn’t know what I wanted!”
I thought it couldn’t be worse. I thought any changes would make it better.

I see this pattern in my life every now and then. I can even find many outstanding events in the history of my country that follow the same rule. Few years ago, you may recall the election results that surprised every body? A friend of mine had a good explanation for that, which over time made more sense to me;
“از بغض معاويه، نه از حب على”
(people supported the elected president because they hated his opponent.)
It seems a long story is hidden behind this pattern!

I am gonna break the pattern. I will make a new model for my personal life. When something bothers me, I should figure out what about it is not right. Does the other way address the issue? What is the trade-off?
I do not complain or criticize anymore, unless I propose an alternative, a suggestion.