some facts

In my opinion in this era still our attitude towards people with psychological and mental disorders is full of flaws. Indeed we are far away from brutality of the past towards these people, but we still consider them most of the time "bad" or even "guilty" or "weak" or...Our view is still judgmental in many aspects, even though we may not confess to it. What I am trying to say is that we don't look at these people as patients, like a diabetic patient or people with disorders in which their own role has been far less than what we think.
Let me make myself clear with a few examples:
exe1: Studies have shown that the rate of concordance in monozygotic twins for Bipolar disease is nearly 0.8 but for dizygotic twins it is nearly 0.2. Ok :) let me explain that , first of all monozygotic twins means they have the same genetic pool, dizygotic means they genetically differ like other siblings, but it is more likely that they have been in the same environment, because they were the same age and in same situations and...Now bipolar disease is when a person has phases of depression and mania, and finally the concordance rate here means simply: if a a person has bipolar disease 80% of the times his/her monozygotic twin also has the disease compared to 20% in dizygotic twins; hence the importance of genetics.
The same thing is true for depression( the numbers are a bit different) or schizophrenia or many other disorders.
Ex2: If you take the child of an alcoholic parent at time of birth and give the child to a very normal well behaved healthy family, the chances of him/her becoming an alcoholic is much higher than other children in that family.
A very important fact is that it is well proven that a lot of what goes on in our lives is related to our childhood experiences, even some say the first year of the life is the most important in determining how you'll be in rest of your life, and it's not that hard to acknowledge you have little control on what you'll go through as a child. Then as adults we act out our defense mechanisms which come from our unconscious part.( you can only call an action defense mechanism if it's done unconsciously; and believe me those mechanisms are so complicated and they are too many, we are constantly using them in our everyday life.)
What I am trying to say is that in many cases the person's role in his/her condition is much less thant what we think ( of course it's not zero, but is a diabetics role in his/her disease progression zero? I know that here we face another matter, the harm that can be done to society and people but let's not get into it...)
Another very important thing in my opinion is not to forget that psychology is also a science, so it's not always that easy to make judgments and conclusions about what we see, i.e its not really that easy to say that some pattern is a normal or an abnormal behavior. Here comes another example, well consider this: a 40 year old very successful businessman who has a perfect relationship with his wife and children in all aspects and I want to say that again , in "all" aspects, now you find out that the man does masturbation really often, too many times a week, is he normal or abnormal? Well my first reaction was of course something is wrong with him, there should be a problem, he should do something about it...But masturbation is considered completely normal, with no age limits( yes "no" age limits!From an infant to an old person) unless it is causing some harm or problem in person's life or relationships, if it's not altering anything, it's normal, no matter how often the person does it.
One last point: A few years ago a research was done, comparing schizophrenics in the states and as far as I remember in a very simple village in India. Well it turned out that the schizophrenics in that poor area were in much better situation regarding their disease. The researchers didn't believe their results. Something had to be wrong!!So they studied all the aspects of their research looking for possible bias, and they repeated the research last year, of course they got the same results. And now they know why: back there in that village schizophrenics are still a part of society, they are not isolated, they may not have access to all these new medications but they work, they attend parties, ceremonies and social events , they even get married to people in their own level...And hence they don't deteriorate as fast ,they even get better in many cases.