It is said the first few years of childhood is so crucial. A newborn infant observes the world just as a camera does, without any sense of self-existence. While survival is the ultimate and the only goal of life, a needy child may die or get permanent damage if she does not receive enough strokes.
In the first few years, neural cells grow connections, feelings and emotions develop, and muscles and bones get strength. Gradually, mutual relationship makes sense and social contacts are made. Basic image of the outer world is understood and this primitive perception of existence guides the little child not even through teen ages but also through the rest of her life.
If not impossible, it is very complicated to renovate low self-esteem and negative self-confidence of a person who was maltreated before the age of three. So almost every grown up needs to reassess her mindset over and over again.
That is funny, but I experienced all of the above at the age of 30! A 30 year-old child! That is what happened to me as an immigrant.
Now I need to revise my last four years over and over again.
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Nice post.
Very informative. And of course I agree with the sad truth about immigration. It's just too much change! Too much! And I'm still not sure if all that changes are to my benefit. Maybe it only raised the level of my anxiety, that's all!
As the use of subjective pronouns she: very very nice! You earned 1000000 points from the females in this group ;-)
i think i have told you about my infamous age theory of immigrants' social age, didn't i?
immigrants' social age rests to zero at the time of immigration; i.e. my social circle in Iran comprised of people within +/-3 years around my age, whereas the majority of my social circle here comprises of people who emigrated to the US within +/-3 years around the same time that i did. we talk, act and live almost the same lives based on the number of years we've spent in this neck of woods, so its only natural that you and i went through so many phases of an infant's life within the past 5 years or so.
my theory is nothing new of course, our beloved prophet believed in it so strongly he actually decided the calendar must be reset by the time of his immigration. following his sacred way, i literally stepped first on this soil on 01/01/01, see, it all makes sense :)
Interesting theory, Shahin!
That was really intresting!
You should give more theories Shahin!
I have to agree with you. Looks like this is mostly the pattern. Except that sometimes I'm able to jump a few social levels, but only in some specific areas and never completely.
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