Making decision often causes stress and anxiety. Freedom always involves some uncertainty, which may provokes insecurity. I am free to choose, but each decision eliminates other options. And I simply can never know with certainty whether I am making a right decision. A possibility of a wrong choice brings the burden of responsibility, which can paralyze decision-making.
I have learned many ways to avoid this situation; procrastination lets the time kill some choices and unimportant secondary issues outweigh few others. Neither looking for excuses nor shifting attention to other stuff introduces a solution. Nevertheless, they are all futile.
I am responsible for my own decisions and I am grateful of that.
Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapon of reasons which today arm you against the present.
- Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
Taken from an article about Existential Anxiety
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Great post Pezhman, thanks!
What you suggest here is very true! I've been thinking about it today and I have to admit I am guilty of postponing my decisions in many situations.
I also like to include a fact, in order to try to suggest one process that may help avoiding that poblem:
when I was younger, much younger, I barely remember having trouble making choices. One can say I wasn't making as much decisions as I am today. But there is another angle to that too.
For a long time now, I've been dealing with BAD options! And I'm thinking choosing between bad and worse in nobody's favorite thing! Hence the hesitation and delay that happens a lot to me while making deceisions. It's like that we grow up, and suddenly life becomes something that we have to survive through not neccessarily reach any dream or goal!
I've been thinking today, that one practical way of dealing with this may very well be accepting the 'bad options' as oppose to the 'worse ones' and stop dreaming that things will change.
What do you think?
To have the opportunity to choose, is a big blessing or luck, in the past years whenever I had to make an important decision by choosing something or a way or...I always thought how lucky I am compared to many to even have these choices, it's true still, for many and in many situations there's not much to choose from, so let's enjoy what we have:)
I create choice distinct from decision. You can think of it as love of a mother for her child. Doesn't matter how the child is (handicap, ill, ugly ...) the mother always loves her child and never wants to change it with any other child. Let's call this a choice.
Now imagine you could bring that level of love and acceptance to all of the choices you make in life. You may think it is not possible but just imagine for a moment. When you look at life the way mother looks at her child, will there be any space for regret, disappointment or stress?
BTW, wonderful idea with this weblog.
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